Updated: Dec 18, 2020
Do you find that you are constantly on and off the wagon with your diet, eating or exercise routine like you are in a never ending, exhausting battle against yourself?
Do you eat or binge in secret, hiding it and put on a brave face and attempt to portray this perfect image on the outside, but on the inside you are really struggling because you feel like a fraud?
Do you ever think; “I’m a smart, driven, intelligence women why the hell can’t I just get a grip on my food issues or eating disorder?”
Do you feel like you have tried everything? Self-help, diets, training plans, meditation or counselling and you are still stuck and keep relapsing?
Does it ever feel like you have failed so many times that you are starting to worry that you will be stuck binge eating, emotional eating, restricting and sabotaging yourself over and over again for the rest of your life? Does it feel like you will never escape your food issues or eating disorder?
What is the real problem? How can you prevent an Eating Disorder Relapse?
When there’s something you desire but can’t seem to make it happen, chances are that your subconscious mind is preventing you from having what you want.
Let’s use an iceberg analogy. Your conscious mind is the tip of the iceberg. It’s visible and obvious. From this place your goal is clear. For example, “I want to let go of food restriction.”
Your subconscious mind is the mass of ice below, hidden and lurking beneath the surface. It is much more powerful than your conscious mind. When something is hidden, you don’t know the impact it can have until you bump up against it.
The unconscious mind is over 1,000000 x more powerful than the conscious mind AND it is responsible for 90% of our daily behaviour, including our behaviours which we so desperately want to change!
To resolve your food issues for good and to prevent an Eating Disorder relapse- your conscious and subconscious minds must agree.
If your subconscious mind says, “I’m ready to change and feel safe to do so,” you most likely make progress. But when your subconscious mind holds fear and doubt, chances are you’ll have a harder time and may sabotage yourself despite your best intentions and find yourself with an Eating Disorder relapse.
The main issue here is that people are aware of their conscious beliefs and behaviours, but not of subconscious beliefs and behaviours.
Your subconscious beliefs are working either for you or against you, but the truth is that you are not controlling the majority of your life, because your subconscious mind overtakes all conscious control.
So, when you are trying to make changes from a conscious level, trying to find ways to manage your anxiety, stop yourself overeating, binging or restricting- there may be an invisible subconscious programme that’s sabotaging you.
The 3 essentials elements for you to be able to resolve your issues for good and to prevent an Eating Disorder relapse
You may already have 2 out of the 3 required elements for success:
1. conscious thought (i.e. wanting to change, and making a conscious effort to plan what to do)
2. conscious action (i.e. starting meditation, following a meal plan, attending a support group etc)
BUT you are missing number 3:
3. The support of your subconscious mind
Deep down there are some core issues going on which are holding you back, stopping you from kicking your issues into touch for good and make you go back to your old, familiar habits and behaviours.
The number one reason people fail to make permanent changes is because they neglect to make changes in their subconscious mind to support their conscious goals. Their subconscious minds let them down and hold them back.
All your unwanted emotions; the stress, anxiety, loneliness, fear, feeling out of control, they are all being triggered by a core driver which is linked back to your identity, beliefs or values. These are things such as believing you are not good enough, unlovable, unworthy or undeserving. An entire day spent in one of these states will leave you feeling burnt out and exhausted, so it is only logical that you have come to rely on food for some need of release! Asking you to change your behaviours around food without addressing these core drivers is like asking somebody top overcome their addiction to pain killers whilst simultaneously exposing them to constant physical pain.
Many people worry that overcoming these core issues is long, slow or painful, but nothing can be further from the truth. We have been led to believe that to resolve these core issues we have to dive into the past and talk about it, understand it and analyse it. However, the result of this is that we can end up with a detailed, intimate understanding of how and why we got stuck but we still remain stuck! Unfortunately, the more we relive upsetting events the more upset we can become because you ‘feed what you focus on’.
The solution is to REFRAME and TRAIN. This requires working on those past emotional blockages to reframe their meaning in your subconscious (not just go back and talk about them) and then train your brain in the antidote skills that it is lacking; self-love, inner peace, self-assurance. These core issues are not illnesses or disorders, but learnt skills as a result of past negative experiences and which have been accidentally stored unconsciously.
If you haven’t overcome your issues YET and if you keep finding yourself relapsing around food, that says nothing about you or the capabilities you have tried. You just may not have tried a method which targets both your conscious and subconscious minds to reframe and train your mind from the inside-out.
Once you make these shifts, the uncontrollable craving and urges will disappear and you will establish a completely new relationship with food. You will finally be able to relax around food and know that you will be in control and remain on track. You’ll be able to enjoy your food and have a life without the fear of losing control or having to make extreme compromises. You build unstoppable confidence and self-belief to take back control of your life so you can start showing up as your true self. Finally, you will finally have space in your thoughts and in your mind for the stuff that really matters.
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Until next time,